Five Things to Unlearn About Pursuing Your Goals
1.There is a timeline on your happiness.
If you’re a Type A person like me, you probably have a tendency to plan out your entire life. I learned quickly that as an actor doing that would be useless. Though I’m very fortunate to be able to do what I do there is also very little consistency in my life. I go where the work is, therefore I have to constantly change the ideas and goals I have for myself. So this one is probably the most challenging for me. Making peace with the idea that I don’t need to be at a certain place in my life to be happy, that I can be happy today. That I can find beauty in my present circumstance even though it doesn’t look the way I thought it was supposed to.
2.There are wrong answers.
If you think something is a wrong answer this thought is usually fueled by an insecurity and fear of not being good at it. Remember, it’s never a bad thing when you decide to do something to expand yourself. Something I love about the end of a yoga class is when the instructor tells you to “thank yourself for coming to the mat today”. This gesture allows you to really be proud of yourself for doing something for you when you could’ve spent the day avoiding making yourself a priority. This is a good way to feel about every new goal we set for ourselves. Thank yourself for that bravery.
3.You’ll never be good enough to do the thing you really want to do.
Nothing comes without persistency and practice. Your favorite authors, athletes, artists, didn’t come off the couch and decide to be the best. They worked hard and fell in love with what they did so much so that it stopped feeling like work. They sacrificed their time and believed in themselves. Making something a priority mixed with believing in yourself can create magic!
4.People are waiting for you to fail.
No one is thinking about you as much as you are thinking about you. Especially in a negative way. But if they are, that says more about them than it does about you. So you stay in your lane and focus on your shine honey!
5.If I looked like her everything would be easier.
Why is it so much easier to expect the best in people than it is to expect the best in ourselves. We always say things like “well I’m not surprised, she’s gonna kill it. Or “of course she got the award she’s brilliant.” Why can’t we think those things about ourselves? Why do we feel like we are not perfectly capable and deserving in our own bodies as we think other people are? We underestimate how powerful our own thoughts are to our wellbeing. Thinking low of yourself can send vibes to the universe that you don’t think you are deserving and these frequencies can keep good things from coming into your life. Try thinking of new goals in this way:
What’s the best thing that can happen? Fill your daily life with the possibility of all the good things coming your way.
It is never too late to make a decision that best serves you. This is a way to take life by the hand and make it work for you instead of the other way around. Thank yourself for the positive decisions you make today and everyday.